• How does one learn to tap into their inner wisdom? How do you even know what it is?  Or even whether it matters whether we connect with our inner wisdom or not.  To many people it sounds like "La La" and they can only  say,

    “I’ve gotten by so far – what makes you think I need it?”

    “Besides I don’t have time to waste on me!  That would be selfish, navel-gazing, indulgent and just not right.”  is a common response.


    You’ve probably noticed that the people we tend to admire appear to be happy people.   Could it e that you owe it to the world to be a happy person, and like it or not, that involves ‘wasting time’ on you.  

    There are tons of happiness suggestions out there in all the media that saturates our days.  You only have to do a Google search on “how to be happy” to find pages and pages of relevant articles. You will also find that the majority of them recommend forms of indulgent and  often quite selfish behaviour. 

    Now it just happens that there are around 1.5 billion active websites on the internet (2020). This means that a lot of people are putting up information for the rest of us to read and learn and interact with. It is the way the content is spread across those websites that I find most interesting.  

    Anyone who searches Google will find that there are 6.6 billion search results that address the idea of being happy.  Clearly happiness matters.   It may surprise you, like it did me, that there are 1.1 billion results for “how to be beautiful”, 796 million for “how to be rich” and 723 million for “how to be successful”. There are only 241 million on “how to be a better person” and just 67.7 million results on “how to be wise”. Luckily there are 741 million results on “how to be healthy” and only 158 million on “how to be a good parent” but 575 million on “how to be famous”.

    This is how it looks as a graph.

    Clearly happiness matters and is close in importance with being rich, successful and healthy. But the startling winner is being beautiful. Fortunately this includes inner beauty – which takes it out of the realm of pure vanity.

    Just another “How to be” is how to be right. This one trumps beauty by a further 80 million results to make it the top desire in this, what I freely admit is a rather simple research method. It makes me wonder whether there could be an interesting connection between being right and one’s most sincere question?

    Our conditioning says we must conform to some notion of knowledge or ultimate rightness. Usually though this is someone else’s notion of knowledge.  Do we try to meet standards and live up to expectations in our desire to be right? Maybe we do that because it might help us to become better liked and appreciated. And in our efforts to please, we inadvertently plant the seeds of our frustrations and create our sincere questions.  We start to question what exactly is “right” especially if, as can and does happen, it does not ring true with us.

    We question the childlike innocence which helped us to form our opinions of the world.  And so we end up in a sort of limbo. Many of us get coerced, by various means, to believe that we ‘need’ help, way past the time of our childhood.

    It may be because our education system glorifies fact-based knowledge over subjective interpretation. This can be most confusing when we become aware that facts aren’t always factual. The push for fact-based knowledge causes us to second guess our intuition.  How odd that most of us are educated to not believe in ourselves.  

    The "self-help" industry makes billions out of this conflict; by knowing that people accept the strange belief that when they do not know something an expert can sell them the answer. Great numbers of people have become weakened by believing that there is someone wiser who can tell them how to be. 

    All the advice in the world will not actually match your living experiences. You are unique and wonderful and your living experience counts for something. It has formed you and is why you do things your way.

    Even when you want an answer and consult someone for advice, you are still doing the assessing. You are the one deciding whether it works or not. Your instinctive sense already knows whether it is right, but your weakened self belief refuses at times to listen. This is because you have become fearful of your subjective powers, and sadly this often happens. We doubt ourselves.

    Happily not everyone wants to mould you to their purpose. A respectful coach will not tell you, either subtly or overtly what to do. They will simply provide a perspective. And then you, probably unconsciously, go to a universal principle to test what you heard. And that principle is that Life is the only lesson and your experience is the only teacher. You test advice against your experience; your vast experience.

    You are a part of magical and mysterious humanity you have the honour of loving, creating and experiencing this Life. There are endless ways for each person to taste it. Without you to experience it, it is not real, unless you have forgotten how to believe in yourself.

    That is why you need to engage in a certain amount of introspection in order to drag your most sincere question out of the back blocks of your mind. You need to test it out without the fear that you might not be conforming to someone else’s notions of what is “right” for you to think and feel.  Those same notions were probably what sent it scurrying out of view in the first place. 

    When people meet in an open forum of trust and respect they can give and receive that which is 'most right' at the same time.

    Being sensitive to what is important to them can enable you to encourage someone to solve a minor relationship problem they’re having. Just by being centred, and a willing sounding board, you could help another reach clarity about their business goal; or just “be around’ to applaud when someone else gets an incredibly creative insight into their current roadblock.

    And at the same time, because there is a spirit of sharing, you work out what you need to do to free up some time for yourself so you can become a volunteer lifesaver that you’ve always wanted to be. By being connected to your inner wisdom a sort of magic occurs.

    Amazing things happen when people meet with the desire to tap into their inner wisdom. This requires being present and not behind a digital screen of some description. This requires that you are in a lovely location and the people are real and sitting with you.  It’s amazing how quickly you can become friends when you share important stuff with people.

    There's a fair swag of literature that suggests that we all have a little voice inside of us that represents the real us after we strip away all the programming by society, family, peers and media etc.

    In the enduring words of Lao -Tzu in the 6th Century BC

    "At the centre of your being you have the answer; 
    you know who you are and you know what you want."

    There are techniques on offer as to how to hear that little voice. It all begins with you wanting to hear it.

    Are you game enough to tap into your own inner wisdom?